As far as organized activities go, we had a light weekend. So, I figured that left plenty of weekend time to finish some chores: cleaning the bathrooms, weeding the yard, and figuring out the latest Apple update.
Yeah, I didn’t do any of them.
I’m noticing as I’ve entered my 40’s that I’m refusing the “should be” mentality.
For the past decade I have been immersed in raising my children, bearing the brunt of maintaining the household, and owning a business. Yet, any spare moments were filled with guilt or “should be”: I can’t read this magazine now, I should be starting dinner. The kids are asleep, I should be finishing laundry not catching up on Castle.
This weekend while my son was outside playing & my daughter was finishing homework would’ve been a perfect time to get my own work done. Instead I read for an hour AND I took a nap.
I realized that I didn’t feel guilty or wasteful, I felt great.
Mental health moments…feeding your soul…whatever you call it…are essential.
Maybe your moment is 5 minutes, maybe it’s a full weekend.
Regardless of the length of time, they’re a moment to breathe; a moment to reconnect to yourself.
It doesn’t take a jaunt to Tahiti and a cabana boy (though it does sound fabulous!) to find your spirit.
Here are my 5 favorite mindful moments that purely benefit my mental health.
Reading. Taking away my books is like taking away my oxygen. I’ve yet to reach my goal of reading 50 books in one year (47 is my closest), but I read everyday. I am grateful that my children both share this passion for reading. I fully believe that the most important card you’ll ever own is a library card.
Heat. I’m an Aries, a Fire sign. I thrive in the hot weather. 10 minutes sitting in the sun is necessary for my physical and mental health. Yes, I turn to my “happy lamp” in brutal February when we see only minutes of sun during the month. Taking a green approach, my skin is like solar panels and I need to be recharged often. Based on that theory maybe a winter trip to Tahiti should be covered under health insurance!
The Sunday paper and my cup of coffee. This is my time. Even if it meant the kids had extra “tv time,” without this ritual, it isn’t Sunday. The Sunday paper is a childhood comfort that began with the colorful cartoons. It’s still the first section I read, and then let my kids take to enjoy.
Singing loudly. When my 5th (throat chakra) is feeling a bit rusty, generally I’m holding back words that need to be spoken. I bring mindful strength and energy to my voice by singing…loudly. Usually in the car with the windows down, driving on the highway is my preferred venue. The shower works well too.
Though it seldom happens, a weekend with girlfriends (kiddos at home) is the megastar of mental health moments. The chance to reconnect with friends and myself is sacred. Though lunch or a coffee break together is effective, once in a while a full weekend is necessary to refuel my spirit.
Do I utilize all of these mental health moments daily? No. But, I embrace them when they do.
In the grand scheme of life, is 15 minutes for yourself over folding laundry
really that great of a sacrifice? Is spending your lunch hour reading outside truly less important than eating at your desk to finish one more email?
Feeling overwhelmed, a loss of identity, or wouldn’t know where to begin with mindful moments? Green Envee Crown Chakra Essential Oil Blend is a great way to re-energize your 7th chakra reconnecting you to yourself and the world around you.
What are your mental health moments? Hot bath, glass of wine, gardening?
Are you able to enjoy them without guilt or “should be?”
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