When life gives you lemons don’t make lemonade

I spent yesterday at another memorial. It wasn’t for a child this time, it was someone my own age. Common thread? Both forms of cancer. Again, cancer sucks.

Needless to say, there’s been many conversations with my children this summer about death. And, like every parent, I don’t have answers.

grandmaI don’t know why a twelve year old (or 42 year old) didn’t win their battles, yet my 94 year old grandmother (a three time cancer survivor) left hospice and has relearned how to walk.

I can tell my kids that we learn from this to live life to the fullest: love deeply and laugh loudly. But my son’s response made the most sense.

He asked why the saying goes that when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Lemonade is ordinary, he said. Instead, when life gives you lemons, you should make something extraordinary…like lemon sorbet.

Damn right.

Make it extraordinary.

lemonsI realized last night that my friend is the same age my mom was when my father died. Her oldest son is twelve, the same age I was. And that stinks.

And it was hard…really hard. The death of my father didn’t just affect me- it shaped me.

I learned the value of time.
I learned the depth of strength.
I learned the difference between friends and friendship.

Those words keep coming back to me- death never comes at a convenient time.

We only get one shot at this thing called life.

So we can wait. Wait for an invitation to meet for dinner. Wait for the “right time” to plan that vacation. Wait for a special occasion to open a bottle of champagne.

Or, we can grab life by the proverbial balls and do it now. Because what’s more special than today?

It’s not about jumping out of planes or climbing Everest (unless you want it to be!). It’s about not giving in to the excuses: I don’t have time, I’m scared, What if, I’ll do it when…

Today is the day.

Make it extraordinary.

Lemon Sorbet photo credit.


3 responses to “When life gives you lemons don’t make lemonade

  1. Right on! Carpe diem! Great post. Forward!

  2. Pingback: Saying goodbye | ftedailygreen

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